Losing a feathered companion can be an extremely emotional experience. It can be hard to cope and difficult to move on with your life. If you’ve become deeply attached to your feathered friend, having to say goodbye can be devastating. We all grieve in our own way. But here are a few tips to help you process your loss:
- Give Yourself Permission to Grieve. Friends and family members may tell you that losing a parrot is not a big deal—after all it was “just a bird.” These types of responses can cause you to internalize your grief, or even deny it. But this type of reaction is not healthy. In order to heal and overcome your loss, you must allow yourself time to grieve. Realize that it’s okay to cry or mourn for your parrot. In the beginning, small things may trigger a wave of grief. You may be cleaning house and stumble across your feathered friends favorite bird toy. These items can cause a flood of memories to sweep over you. Allow yourself time to grieve. It’s important. Don’t stuff away your feelings.
- Express Your Thoughts and Feelings. For some people, it may be helpful to express their feelings of grief using words or art. You may want to draw pictures of your bird, or write a poem about him. It may be helpful to find someone to talk to. Select a person who is a good listener and will be empathetic to how you feel. If possible, try finding someone who has lost a parrot themselves and knows what you are going through. You can also look for a pet loss counselor who is in expert in this area.
- Memorialize Your Parrot. Oftentimes, one of the greatest ways we can overcome our grief is to create a memorial or tribute to our feathered friend’s life. You may want to design a scrapbook of your parrot. Include funny photos, a few feathers or pictures of his favorite bird toys. You could designate a small shelf or corner in your house to store your parrot’s favorite things. You could also create a tombstone or music video as a tribute to your beloved bird.
When the time is right, you may be ready to get another parrot. This doesn’t mean you’ve forgotten your former friend, but it can help you move on and share your love with another bird that needs a loving home.
We lost one of our feathered friend named Phantom back in October 2011……he was a Quaker parrot. His memory lives in our hearts forever. We made a special photo album that we proudly display in our living room. We also made a tribute video for him……he was so loved and is so missed. His tribute video is below.